How to build confidence in Kidz
Hi,
I am new to this forum and I didn't see any other discussions on the same topic. If any one feels that I am duplicating a discussion, pl. guide me.
My elder boy has just completed 6 years and is studying in UKG at Chennai. He is very calm and quite and mostly obedient and lovely (the same remarks from his teacher). He has a sister who is less that 2 years old. When someone ask a question to him, he will usually look down and his answer may not be audible. Even if, we ask him to look at face and answer, he feels shy. In school, when asked to sing a song in front of every one, he does that... but he will be looking down and does. If it is a group, he does it with more enthusiasm. And, he has less friends and not great in mingling with kids of same age. He loves to be at the company of smaller kids (small in size and naughtiness).
Can any one offer some hints on helping him?
Thanks,
Pradeep.
I am sorry that I posted my comments without logging in. The above comments with @Pragyap:, @nikisha and @admin: is from me.
@Pragyap: Thanks for your suggestion on using child phone. I wasn’t aware of this and just read some links like http://www.findyourchild.net/ and http://www.mobilelocators.com/
Is it something available at India? And, is your kid well co-operating to that? For instance, not playing with that and the friends are not taking it…
@nikisha: He is not mingling with anyone especially the kids of his age or above. When someone comes to the home, he will need some time to get adjusted to that and he will run away to the other rooms. Even after some time, he is very cautious that “some people” are around and watching him. This portion should be fine. But, I am running out ideas and patience on how to correct his “not mingling” aspect.
@admin: Many thanks for sharing this. Why I didn’t find it earlier??? :-)
I am going to take some advices from these. I will keep you posted on how it goes. Meanwhile, if anyone has got a practical and proven ideas, kindly share.
Well I use a device known as child phone which I keep in the pocket of my son when he goes outside. This assures me his safety as I can watch his location at any moment that he is in his school or not. This is done without disturbing his freedom and space.
Pradeep, I think many kids behave in this manner. I think letting him mingle with more kids, in games or classes. and with other elders in family and your friends will normally bring him out of his shyness.
Dear Pradeep,
Here are a couple of articles where we tackle this issue. Let me know if you find these useful.
http://www.kidandparent.in/childdevelopment/shyness-in-children
http://www.kidandparent.in/childdevelopment/self-confidence
He lacks confidence for sure. try sending him to activities that involves interaction from other kids. An example would be a summer camp. They have outdoor activities that can be done with a group. so through there, he can learn to cooperate and interact with the others. The staffs also helps boost their confidence so its a plus points there. :)